So you’ve been crying more than usual lately. Me too. Let’s overanalyze this together…
It seems that as I have gotten older I have started crying more often. I really thought it would be the other way around, but that is apparently not the case. Maybe it’s because I am in my late 20s and am nowhere close to having my shit together? Hmm…
I’ve always been the strong one of all my friends. During college, I was the one my friends would come to for honest advice because I always tell it like it is. If I ever came to them crying, then they knew it was bad because this didn’t happen often.
Now crying doesn’t count if it’s during any movie where a dog dies. That’s a whole different ballgame and I’m tearing up just thinking about Old Yeller right now so we’re not even going to talk about that anymore.
Anyway, I chose to write this post because it just dawned on me how much of an emotional mess I have been as I started bawling while watching The Bachelorette…
I started this blog because I have assessed my life and realize I am not where I had hoped to be at this age. My birthday is coming up, which is depressing me, and I’m having some serious relationship issues so my emotions are all over the place. What I do know is that everything is temporary and I have to suck it up and power through this mess.
So, going along with that, I have given myself permission to cry whenever I damn well please and not feel guilty about it. And you should do the same.
I don’t know a single person that can keep it together 24/7/365. It’s just not healthy. Man or woman, we all need a good cry and you don’t need to feel that you are weak because of it. Is your boss a complete asshole? Relationship troubles never ending? You missed the Victoria’s Secret Semi-Annual Sale? Let it out. I promise you will feel much better after a good cry, I know I do. It also gives you an excuse to treat yourself after you ruined that winged liner you spent half an hour on (enjoy that cupcake as mascara streams down your face).
Keeping your emotions bottled up can only lead to a disaster down the road. You’re a ticking time bomb. I’ve been there and it’s not fun. Like a few weeks ago when I spent 15 minutes crying in the bathroom at work because my boss yelled at me when really it was mostly because I hadn’t been dealing with my personal issues at home. So yeah, just trust me on this one.
You can’t move forward if you’re holding onto emotional baggage. If you’ve had a traumatic or emotional experience happen in your life recently then you can’t let it hold you back. You will be a stronger person if you face this head on, whether alone, with friends, your therapist or even your cat (that’s me, the crazy cat lady).
Crying is a healthy way to release your emotional stress. And personally, I typically become more productive afterwards. Just because I have given myself permission to cry and not feel guilty about it does not mean I enjoy this emotion and want it to reoccur. Meaning once I have had my little moment I make it a priority to deal with my shit so that I feel I am at least progressing.
So, the message of this post is do not watch Old Yeller unless you want to bawl like a little baby. I’m serious, this movie really messed me up and is the main reason I have fucking trust issues.
But really, give yourself permission to feel the feels. Never be ashamed if your emotions get the best of you. You’re only human and I can promise you if you are crying most likely I am crying with you in the same moment.